History is the autobiography of a mad man – Alexander Herzen
Hello, my name is Paul and I’m a feminist. Yes contrary to the opening picture guys can be a feminists. I don’t think there’s a big deal about being one. I don’t think it’s to be congratulated or to be berated. I heard once that “feminism is the radical notion that women are people too.” Radical notion? Sure. Anything to be proud of? Well if you can be proud for not being a jerk than sure.
This is where the concept should end though. Hey, treat women equally, and boo on men that don’t. However, there is the popular feminist notion that men (me included) don’t get it, and the (anti-feminist notion) some women like to see “sexism” everywhere.
Now let me just write a few disclaimers because I can already here the negative comments being typed.
Rape is wrong an inexcusable. No one ever asks to be rape. Programs like “take back the night” and “a mile in her shoes” are good and informing men of that issue
It is absurd that women do not make as much money as a man for the same job. Same job, same pay. No question.
To me girls truly are equal. Hooray right? Well treating girls equally has not always had the best results…from those girls.
I used to be the President of the Towson Dodgeball Club. It’s a male dominated club as one would suspect but we have our token girls. Now in my feminist mind set they are equal right? Don’t treat them any differently, right? So I’d have a ball and whip in a guys face. My team cheers, I do the same and whip it at a girls face and get jeers. Equality?
Like most parties in college there is a cover fee to get in. The few large parties I threw were no different. At one point there were girls who didn’t come with any money. I said they can’t come in then. Their response was, and I quote “uhhh we’re girls and we’re hot. What are you gay? Let us in, who cares if we don’t have any money WE ARE HOT.” Apparently at other parties there are sexist party throwers who let good looking girls in for free. As a feminist, I get slandered…by girls.
At the bar scene does the guy buy the girl a drink and then she buys him a drink? No, he usually is “rewarded” with being acknowledged by the girl and maybe they’ll talk. Nobody buys guys drinks…well except other guys….but that’s a different topic entirely.
3rd disclaimer: You should never hit a woman, even if they’re hitting a man
But…why can women hit guys? Why is that socially acceptable? I recently saw a series of videos about men’s and women’s “roles” being reversed. It’s called the flipside They’re mainly “classic” situations where guys “act” like girls and girls “act” like guys. What I mean is not that guys are talking in an effeminate tone but their actions and words are “classically” done by girls and vice versa. Are they funny, or missing the point?
Do you ever see women going to the bar to try and pick up guys like in the video? Maybe once in awhile but usually it’s guys who go to the bar to pick up girls. Then there’s the whole “double standard” of “Why is girl who gets with a guy is a “slut” but a guy who get’s a lot of girls a “player?” Because men have to work to get girls. If a guy doesn’t look good, have money, or social skills he is useless to society and to girls. If I went to a bar and walked up to every girl and asked if they wanted to leave the bar with me I’d probably fail almost 100% time. If an attractive girl did that to all the guys in the bar, there definitely would be a good number of guys saying YES!
Is that okay? Is that sexist? Who is that favoring? What’s the point of all of this?
My point is that men and women are different. Biologically, sexually, interest wise, and culturally (assuming there is a guy and girl “culture”)
Joe Rogan was recently blasted on his podcast for saying that a transgendered man (who was previously a woman) shouldn’t be able to fight in the men’s MMA league. His reasoning was that biologically speaking, men’s hands are bigger, their wing spans are wider, they have more muscle mass and it wouldn’t be a fair fight. He wasn’t being anti-transgendered but got blasted for it…until the transgendered man was beaten within an inch of his life in the MMA fight. Equality isn’t always what you want it to be.
Also, an eye for an eye doesn’t solve anything. Real sexism is when women are screwed out of an equal paycheck, rape, domestic abuse, forced subjection of the body…but let’s not get crazy.
I recently stumbled across the site Jeezebel (or however you spell it) where there was a rant about how some commercial was awful and sexist because the old woman was cleaning and the man was sleeping (in one scene) when it’s sort of meant to poke fun about how the old couple reacted to this new swiffer product.
“WHY DOESN’T MORTY HELP WITH THE CLEANING?! WHY DOES THE WIFE DO IT!?” The writer ranted. The couple is a real couple. Maybe she enjoys cleaning? Maybe he has back pain. Maybe that’s her chore and the husband do the dishes? Maybe because they’re from an different era with more rigid gender roles (like the woman cleaning) and they’re okay with that. My grandmother takes care of my grandfather. She cooks, cleans, gardens, and looks after him. He made the money though. That’s how it was back a generation or 2 ago and that’s how they live. I’m not going to call my grandfather (a pastor of over 50 years) a sexist because my grandmother does more housework. It’s silly.
Now is that acceptable? Sure. Women and still do housework and the man can still be the breadwinner… IF THAT’S WHAT THE COUPLE WANTS. I’m not going to berate a woman for wanting to be a stay at home mom for “conforming to gender roles” nor will I make fun a of a stay at home dad for being a sissy or something. Live and let live, who am I to judge.
It looks like arch feminism sites like that are as short sited as their arch masculine sites counterparts. There was a Return of the Kings (pro male) site about why it’s good to date a girl with an eating disorder. That’s sick. You should never promote something so culturally and physically toxic. Other posts are about the “woes” of being man. Not equating the Morty rant to that but still. They all are a little hyper sensitive.
I was also told the classic Christmas song “Baby it’s cold outside” promotes “rape culture” when I wasn’t even aware sex happened in the song. But I guess if want to believe the woman is forcibly blocked from leaving and than raped instead of my take of a guy wooing/courting a woman to stay by the fire…go ahead and make yourself offended. I guess when all you have is a (feminist) hammer, everything looks like a (sexist) nail.
Is this commercial more or less sexist?
Treating people differently doesn’t mean that they aren’t equal to you as a person. If someone want’s to exploit their body, it’s a free country. Why don’t feminists rally outside Chip and Dale’s club? Those men are objectifying themselves like females do at a Hooters. Maybe I’m just a “gender egalitarian” instead of a feminist.
People are crazy… that’s what this blog is about. I’ll leave you with (the jist) of one of Aesop’s fables. A man was walking with his kid and a donkey. They passed a group of people who scowled at the man for making his kid walk and not ride so the kid got on the donkey. Then they passed another group of people who thought the father should ride too since he did more work, so the father got on too. Then they passed another group of people who were angry they were treating the donkey unfairly by putting so much weight on him….
People get mad at sandwhich jokes, people get mad if a girl is treated special. You can’t please everyone. Just be a nice person TO EVERYONE. Open doors for all people, not just girls. Acknowledge that men and women are different, and relax.